The problem is that it isn't always practical to carefully isolate everything that happens at a party into a private file. Case in point, the party I reference in my response to Mris. A subgroup of the kids invented a new game. At the next full group gathering, a mom said maybe we should get them to play that game again. A mom who hadn't been at the party asked about it, was given the breakdown... and as a result discovered that the kids had been together at something she and her kids hadn't been invited to.
We could sneak around and not mention anything anyone did or said at the party, but frankly, that seems extreme. Nobody said, "And we had this AWESOME PARTY!" we just talked about something that our kids had done.
So I can't post to FB saying "had a great day at J's, the kids are wonderful together." And I can't say, "Let's have the kids play X" if anyone who wasn't there can hear. And I can't say, "I think B left his towel at your place, can you look?" where someone might hear. And...
Or HurtFeelings Mom can accept that there are private events and she's not invited to all of them. Which one is more fair?
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We could sneak around and not mention anything anyone did or said at the party, but frankly, that seems extreme. Nobody said, "And we had this AWESOME PARTY!" we just talked about something that our kids had done.
So I can't post to FB saying "had a great day at J's, the kids are wonderful together." And I can't say, "Let's have the kids play X" if anyone who wasn't there can hear. And I can't say, "I think B left his towel at your place, can you look?" where someone might hear. And...
Or HurtFeelings Mom can accept that there are private events and she's not invited to all of them. Which one is more fair?