Re #2: I recently got to visit my friend L, whom I hadn't seen in a couple of years. She's in her early fifties; it shows in her neck but not particularly elsewhere. Still, she's had an exhausting few years (a bunch of small kids) and she definitely looks older, and what immediately impressed me was how *good* it looks on her. I do like having examples, whether in real life or celebrity, who can make you look forward to what the future is likely to bring.