I hope you don't mind a stranger wandering in and commenting. I love when I discover that there is a term for something I didn't have a specific word for, and I was hoping I could offer you such a gift.
I absolutely hate it when people set up traps for other people, the kind that are phrased as, "If you were REALLY my friend, you would..." or, "If you REALLY loved me, you would...." I refuse to do that.
These are examples of English Verbal Attack Patterns (VAPs). If you're interested, you can read more about them in Suzette Hayden Elgin's LJ (ozarque). This entry (http://ozarque.livejournal.com/471703.html) has several examples, plus links to further reading on the subject.
Verbal Attack Patterns
I absolutely hate it when people set up traps for other people, the kind that are phrased as, "If you were REALLY my friend, you would..." or, "If you REALLY loved me, you would...." I refuse to do that.
These are examples of English Verbal Attack Patterns (VAPs). If you're interested, you can read more about them in Suzette Hayden Elgin's LJ (
Best wishes!