I used to work with someone who was a jerk. Not a sexual harasser, just a garden-variety not-very-nice jerk.
People would occasionally say, "I think maybe he's mildly autistic," I think because he was a geek and a CS person and so on.
But... the thing is, he was always polite to the CEO. He was always perfectly socially acceptable to his boss. He was perfectly fine in situations where it would have been bad for him to be a jerk. He saved it for when there were no real repercussions.
He clearly had a perfectly good grasp of social dynamics and niceties, and was using them to his own advantage—it just happened to be that he wanted to use them to be a jerk.
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I used to work with someone who was a jerk. Not a sexual harasser, just a garden-variety not-very-nice jerk.
People would occasionally say, "I think maybe he's mildly autistic," I think because he was a geek and a CS person and so on.
But... the thing is, he was always polite to the CEO. He was always perfectly socially acceptable to his boss. He was perfectly fine in situations where it would have been bad for him to be a jerk. He saved it for when there were no real repercussions.
He clearly had a perfectly good grasp of social dynamics and niceties, and was using them to his own advantage—it just happened to be that he wanted to use them to be a jerk.