Barnstorming on an Invisible Segway

...except that some of them are. I think dd_b is wrong in saying that those are the two choices, because I think there are certainly times when I've known people to try to hide things I consider forgivable, understandable, non-assholish things. But there are also times when it doesn't matter where the root of the problem is, the behavior is way, way over the line. For example, risking the lives of people one says one loves because one doesn't want them to believe one is imperfect: not okay. No matter what motivates it. Just not okay. Does that mean it extends to all cases? Definitely not, no. But to some cases? Yes, definitely so.