I. "Anyone who becomes afraid of the people who love them" includes victims of abuse, and I would not call those victims assholes. (Id use much stronger terms for the abusers.) Of course you can argue that in that case it's not real love, but both the abuser and the abusee often think it is at the time so how could they judge?
II. In othe cases, people are often afraid not so much of the people who love them, but that those people will stop loving them. I agree with Mris's point 3. that this is not a good way to think, but people who are afraid are often not thinking rationally. I'm not convinced that makes them assholes.
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Date: 2007-10-27 10:47 am (UTC)I. "Anyone who becomes afraid of the people who love them" includes victims of abuse, and I would not call those victims assholes. (Id use much stronger terms for the abusers.) Of course you can argue that in that case it's not real love, but both the abuser and the abusee often think it is at the time so how could they judge?
II. In othe cases, people are often afraid not so much of the people who love them, but that those people will stop loving them. I agree with Mris's point 3. that this is not a good way to think, but people who are afraid are often not thinking rationally. I'm not convinced that makes them assholes.