I will note that the people I know who got through high school the happiest, healthiest people -- even if it was a good high school -- were mostly the ones who had other things outside school with which they strongly identified themselves.
Related to that, I think it's helpful when the outside-school things are multi-generational. It's one thing to see that there are better places one can end up, and it's another thing when people already in those better places show that they can like you and value you and include you.
For example, "having a job" may or may not be mitigating, but "really being someone's colleague" very often is. "Being in the church youth group" may or may not be mitigating, but "really being a member of a congregation" very often is. Etc.
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Date: 2008-04-12 02:25 am (UTC)Related to that, I think it's helpful when the outside-school things are multi-generational. It's one thing to see that there are better places one can end up, and it's another thing when people already in those better places show that they can like you and value you and include you.
For example, "having a job" may or may not be mitigating, but "really being someone's colleague" very often is. "Being in the church youth group" may or may not be mitigating, but "really being a member of a congregation" very often is. Etc.