My parents have always had friends and a social life. It seems like such a simple thing to say, but there it is: I don't remember a time when Mother and Dad didn't go out with friends or have them in for parties or just to hang out in small groups. And while I couldn't swear that I've always adored all of their friends any more than they've always adored all of mine, for the most part I think my folks' friends are good eggs, and I generally enjoyed being around them. There was none of the excruciating, "And what subject do you like best at schooooool?" interrogation from the people who were actually my folks' friends. So I could see pretty much from the time I was old enough to think of it that adults had fun.
I also could see -- and this was extremely important -- that Mother and Dad were not hanging out with Kathy and Bill or Jody or Vicki and Al or whoever else because they thought that those people were externally known as The Cool Crowd and would enhance their prestige. They were (are!) friends with them because they like them. Because they think they are cool people, rather than The Cool Crowd. I think that was extremely healthy for me to be able to see as a kid.
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Date: 2008-04-14 06:21 pm (UTC)I also could see -- and this was extremely important -- that Mother and Dad were not hanging out with Kathy and Bill or Jody or Vicki and Al or whoever else because they thought that those people were externally known as The Cool Crowd and would enhance their prestige. They were (are!) friends with them because they like them. Because they think they are cool people, rather than The Cool Crowd. I think that was extremely healthy for me to be able to see as a kid.