"Rissy, 90% of the things you worry about never come to pass."--Grandpa

[mrissa]

One of the things I have worried about with this stupid vertigo is that someone I care about will interpret my behavior as not caring about them when it's really that I can't do something because of the vertigo, or else that the price of doing that thing would be so immensely high as to be not really worth it.

Now that this has actually happened, the person in question is being so nasty, so selfish, and generally such a drama llama that I'm thinking, "Oh! Is that how it is when people assume that my health problems are really somehow all about them? Well, sorry they feel that way, but not really much I can do about it."

So that's a milestone I guess. Or perhaps a millstone gone.

Grandpa did not mention what percentage of the things I worry about come to pass and then are completely tolerable when they do, but it seems like it might be a pretty relevant category in life, given how much I worry about random stuff.

Comments

[timprov.livejournal.com]

And, thankfully, so far away.

[mrissa.livejournal.com]

Is true: "nasty," "selfish," and "drama llama" combine well with "unable to show up on my doorstep on very short notice."

Would prefer not to go further in identifying the party in question than that, though.

[merriehaskell.livejournal.com]

Probably about 90% of that 10%, I'm guessing.

[panjianlien.livejournal.com]

Some people's children, I swear.

[mechaieh.livejournal.com]

Eep. Commiserations.

[stillnotbored.livejournal.com]

Said drama llama, who ever he or she may be, needs to get over them self. Being unable to do something due to the vertigo is not the same as not wanting to do something.

Seriously, people baffle me.

[dd-b.livejournal.com]

Hey, if 10% of the things you worry about actually happen, that's doing pretty well.

Or else not adopting stringent enough protective measures. One or the other.

[ckd]

As a fellow expert worrier, I think you're right.

[tournevis.livejournal.com]

Hurray for grandpas being right!

[merriehaskell.livejournal.com]

Oh, I know whereof I worry.

[mamapduck.livejournal.com]

What? Like "If you *really* cared about me you'd get on a plane and fly to CA to take care of me while I'm feeling crummy. Selfish vertiginous M'ris!"

Seriously? Things are wrong with people.

[columbina.livejournal.com]

Hoo boy. Sorry to hear it.

[dichroic.livejournal.com]

A lot of things turn out to tolerable when they're happening just because you haveno choice (like, oh, say, vertigo). This one, at least, sounds *easy* to tolerate. (I hope so, anyway.)

[genevra.livejournal.com]

Definitely the drama llama's loss, not yours!

[leahbobet.livejournal.com]

I suppose it's very nice of them to lay that worry to rest. And to make sure you don't have to worry about them after all.

[redbird]

Your grandfather was a smart man.

And yes, anyone over the age of about 8 who will interpret that as being about them is someone you can do without.

[pnkrokhockeymom.livejournal.com]

For real? People will reveal themselves given time, won't they?

[moiread]

Oh, lawd. *facepalm*

[skzbrust.livejournal.com]

Your health problems are not about that other person. Your health problems are about me, because everything is about me. But, fortunately, I'm on your side.

[thoughtdancer.livejournal.com]

What they all said.

Drama llamas are not welcome--you're not Dr. Doolittle, talking to all the animals. ;-)

[mrissa.livejournal.com]

Yes, approximately like that.

[mrissa.livejournal.com]

So considerate!

[mrissa.livejournal.com]

Whew.

[mrissa.livejournal.com]

I am very selective about which animals I talk to!

Anyone who has walked past me when I addressed a dog as, "Hello, gorgeous!" may think that I'm not, but they would be wrong.

[mamapduck.livejournal.com]

Dude. Apparently I have an under-developed sense of entitlement. Although the next time you come to CA I am going to make a real effort to show up at your scheduled M'ris Sighting Events.

[mamapduck.livejournal.com]

This cracked me up because I once (lo, many years ago) had a very drunken conversation with a boyfriend whose theme that evening was "everything eventually ties back to Taltos." So for that moment, I guess he was right with you on everything being about you. :) I can't quite remember how he did it, but I do recall world peace and gummy bears both being "All about Taltos."

[moiread]

Still, I am quite sorry you had to go through that. I mean, I believe it's generally better to know what's what and have the way this person really feels about these things out in the open between you, if only so you guys can then (hopefully) move on, but eesh. If there was some way you could get there while completely skipping the drama llama, nastiness, and friend-trying-to-hurt-you bits, I would wish it for you. 'Cuz you really haven't done anything wrong. And it's not like the vertigo is something you actively chose specifically so you could get on people's nerves, for chrissakes. It's bad enough you having to have vertigo without people giving you shit for it too. And I'm really glad you know that. There are some people who would fall into the trap.

[mrissa.livejournal.com]

I should specify that I almost certainly would have done the thing in question if I hadn't had vertigo. But still.

My next trip to CA is going to be to the dreaded SoCal, but I will get back north eventually. Really.

[dlandon.livejournal.com]

Drama llama was not a term I'd heard before today. Thanks for making me laugh at work :)

and, since I have a good idea who the drama llama is - don't waste a single second on worrying about her.

- D

[marydell.livejournal.com]

Ah, so developing vertigo was a ploy to get out of doing this particular thing. Clever, verrrry clever.

[mrissa.livejournal.com]

One of the things I like about "drama llama" is that it is not gendered. It doesn't act like being drama prone is all a "girl thing." Some of the biggest drama llamas I've known have been male!

[dancing-crow.livejournal.com]

Did he mean that as a generality or for you in particular? Because it sounds about right for the stuff I worry about too, and now I am wondering if it is something like Sturgeon's Law, or the programming thing where 90% of the project takes 90% of the time and the remaining 10% takes another 90% of the time....

And I add to the chorus of sorrow about other people's issues.

[fidelioscabinet.livejournal.com]

Well. Some people!

[mkille.livejournal.com]

I am sorry for nasty selfish drama llamas. But then I picture him or her spitting, like disgruntled llamas do, and I giggle. Just a little.

[reveritas.livejournal.com]

Crap noodle mother of beans. That is not acceptable.

[mrissa.livejournal.com]

He did seem to mean 90% of the things one worries about, or else he was not taking separate data sets for myself and my mother.

[mrissa.livejournal.com]

See? The drama llama helps. It pulls some of the drama out of the situation, even.

[papersky.livejournal.com]

Rhymes too. And llamas, real llamas, are like that.

We were once waiting outside a field of llamas for the people with us who had paid to get in and I got to see a classic moment of a llama spitting at a little boy. All about them, all the attention, all the time.

[writingortyping.livejournal.com]

Brings a whole new meaning to "llama, llama, duck."

[mrissa.livejournal.com]

I do not know "llama, llama, duck." I know "moose llama moose llama turtle turtle," but that seems to be a bit different.

[writingortyping.livejournal.com]

http://burtonearny.deviantart.com/art/The-Llama-Song-9311361

Annoying, sometimes funny, irritatingly catchy.

You have been warned.

[columbina.livejournal.com]

Oh, I wish you hadn't done that. I had just about gotten it out of my head from the LAST time someone linked this.

[mycroftw.livejournal.com]

Sorry, all I know is "duck duck goose", "M R DUCKS", and "quack quack, gobble gobble" ("Did you, by any chance, mean 'duck, turkey'?"). No l*amas, whether priest, beast or silk pajama.