Yah, I think one distinction between what you're saying here and what I'm saying here is that we're focusing on different aspects of what you can control. You're talking about how we should treat others, and that's absolutely true. I don't post here or on my FB (or on my Google+ now that I have it!) if I'm having a party unless it's an open party--and we don't have open parties. I think that there are contexts in which it's rude to rub the fun you're having in someone else's nose.
But. Other people will do this; and even when you're not rubbing it in someone else's nose, sometimes keeping it secret would involve lying or other negative social behavior. And so the other part you can control is how you react to other people's behavior--and which of it you expose yourself to. Sometimes this means reminding yourself that it's great for other people to have fun without you. Other times it means defriending someone or not exposing yourself to a particular kind of social media. But you can't make people not be jerks on FB--you can only not be a jerk yourself, and limit the ways in which you respond to jerks.
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Date: 2011-07-07 07:57 pm (UTC)But. Other people will do this; and even when you're not rubbing it in someone else's nose, sometimes keeping it secret would involve lying or other negative social behavior. And so the other part you can control is how you react to other people's behavior--and which of it you expose yourself to. Sometimes this means reminding yourself that it's great for other people to have fun without you. Other times it means defriending someone or not exposing yourself to a particular kind of social media. But you can't make people not be jerks on FB--you can only not be a jerk yourself, and limit the ways in which you respond to jerks.