Questioning assumptions, bicyclist edition
Jan. 16th, 2026 08:56 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
soniaI'm training for a 100K bike ride in April, so I'm going out on long hilly rides on the weekends. The weather has been delightfully sunny and warm (if a bit odd for January), and they've mostly been great rides.
However, people seem to assume they need to cheer me on. Maybe because I'm a woman, or because I'm not skinny, or because I climb hills slowly, but I do get there.
Half way up Spruce St., a woman waiting to pull out from a side street in her car gives me two big thumbs up as I approached. I smiled and kept biking. That would have been fine. But she rolls down the window and says, "You can do it!" I said, "This is only the thousandth time I've climbed this hill." She was smiling and nodding, and then her face fell as I said "thousandth," probably because she was assuming I would say, "first." Maybe she won't make as many assumptions next time.
Then, getting close to the top, a couple of guys pass me on mountain bikes and one of them says, "Good job!" I said, "You too!" After all, we had both climbed the same hill to the same point. He looked surprised, because young men get to congratulate middle-aged women, but not the other way around.
Yesterday I biked up the hill, down the far side, and then back up. At the corner of Grizzly Peak and Claremont (the beginning of the steep fast descent out of the hills), there is often a Mexican produce stand, and I like to stop there for fruit, even if it tends to end up bruised on the ride down. This time I bought pistachios and mandarins, and they did better on the descent.
When I rode up, there was an older white dude arguing about his total in Spanish with the young Mexican woman staffing the stand. They started over counting it all up and it turns out she was right (surprising me not at all). He said something about buying fruit for his friend with the nasty flu, and I said I was keeping my distance then. He said, "I didn't touch him or anything."
He had been over on the seller's side of the table, and now he came around and said, "Nice bike." I thanked him and answered his questions about it. At this point he's touching the handlebars and standing quite close to me, blocking my way forward. I paid the seller and said, "Excuse me please." He said, "Why do you have to be so rude?" I said, "I need to go home." He said, "You're being rude!" I sighed and backed up the bike to get out of there. He said, "Why do you have to be so American?" as I rode away.
Reminds me of the time a guy on a bike stopped me to ask for directions on a dark rainy night in Portland. I'm generally willing to help, but it was a wide, empty street and he stood too close and blocked my way, at which point I similarly said, "Excuse me" and biked around him. He called after me, "Don't go! I need help!" Which he may have, but he wasn't going to get it with threatening body language. He had a European-sounding accent and maybe it was ignorance of American personal space, but I wasn't going to ignore my spidey-sense to find out.
This dude at the fruit stand spoke unaccented English, so I don't know if he's from somewhere with less personal space, but I don't think I was the one being rude. I guess wherever he's from, he gets to touch other people's (women's) stuff and take up as much time as he wants.
However, people seem to assume they need to cheer me on. Maybe because I'm a woman, or because I'm not skinny, or because I climb hills slowly, but I do get there.
Half way up Spruce St., a woman waiting to pull out from a side street in her car gives me two big thumbs up as I approached. I smiled and kept biking. That would have been fine. But she rolls down the window and says, "You can do it!" I said, "This is only the thousandth time I've climbed this hill." She was smiling and nodding, and then her face fell as I said "thousandth," probably because she was assuming I would say, "first." Maybe she won't make as many assumptions next time.
Then, getting close to the top, a couple of guys pass me on mountain bikes and one of them says, "Good job!" I said, "You too!" After all, we had both climbed the same hill to the same point. He looked surprised, because young men get to congratulate middle-aged women, but not the other way around.
Yesterday I biked up the hill, down the far side, and then back up. At the corner of Grizzly Peak and Claremont (the beginning of the steep fast descent out of the hills), there is often a Mexican produce stand, and I like to stop there for fruit, even if it tends to end up bruised on the ride down. This time I bought pistachios and mandarins, and they did better on the descent.
When I rode up, there was an older white dude arguing about his total in Spanish with the young Mexican woman staffing the stand. They started over counting it all up and it turns out she was right (surprising me not at all). He said something about buying fruit for his friend with the nasty flu, and I said I was keeping my distance then. He said, "I didn't touch him or anything."
He had been over on the seller's side of the table, and now he came around and said, "Nice bike." I thanked him and answered his questions about it. At this point he's touching the handlebars and standing quite close to me, blocking my way forward. I paid the seller and said, "Excuse me please." He said, "Why do you have to be so rude?" I said, "I need to go home." He said, "You're being rude!" I sighed and backed up the bike to get out of there. He said, "Why do you have to be so American?" as I rode away.
Reminds me of the time a guy on a bike stopped me to ask for directions on a dark rainy night in Portland. I'm generally willing to help, but it was a wide, empty street and he stood too close and blocked my way, at which point I similarly said, "Excuse me" and biked around him. He called after me, "Don't go! I need help!" Which he may have, but he wasn't going to get it with threatening body language. He had a European-sounding accent and maybe it was ignorance of American personal space, but I wasn't going to ignore my spidey-sense to find out.
This dude at the fruit stand spoke unaccented English, so I don't know if he's from somewhere with less personal space, but I don't think I was the one being rude. I guess wherever he's from, he gets to touch other people's (women's) stuff and take up as much time as he wants.
but also i should finish hollow ataraxia
Jan. 16th, 2026 09:52 pmstepnixRuminating on Magiamachy, my sketch for a knockoff Fate/Stay night ttrpg. It's gotta be pvp, or it just won't work, but I also want to provide some kind of alternative win condition that isn't just "play a different game now." So: When players are eliminated, they're assigned a new playbook that represents an additional threat disrupting the Magiamachy, like "the Order of Magi wants to shut down the ritual" or "yeah it's aliens." Each of these will either alter some of the fundamental rules, making cracks to allow alternative win conditions, or they'll just straight-up have defined wincons on them.
The initial rules of the Magiamachy look like there's only one way for things to end, but as those rules are broken, new possibilities appear. plus this lets players keep playing even after their character is gone
This year begins with an increase in atrocity and destruction - Early January 02026
Jan. 16th, 2026 08:20 pmsilveradeptLet us begin with an annual roundup of things that had to be removed from rectums, because people make bad decisions about objects without flared bases.
Trans women whose culture includes the quinceañera are celebrating the rite of passage for themselves as an important touchstone of their lives.
A white suit worn by Kate Mulgrew as Captain Janeway in a Star Trek: Voyager episode is about as loud a billboard declaring Janeway queer as you could get away with on television at the time. I get to be part of the Lucky 10,000 in understanding that suit and its origins, and so, hopefully, do you.
People familiar with the culture and traditions of Hawai'i explain why the live-action Lilo and Stitch disrespects that entire tradition, history, and the original animation's messages as well.
The ways that humans have for expressing affection for each other are greater than sex and romance, and many of those acts that WEIRD people would classify as sexual or romantic are instead culturally appropriate expressions of affection. Because there's still not an underlying acceptance of the idea that people can be affectionate to each other without it being sexual, and extra so for people of the same perceived gender.
What we think of as local culture and tradition is global culture and tradition. We have just forgotten that things like food migrate and then integrate really well into wherever they land. Which is why you will occasionally have someone yelling that Italians of an era before the tomato migrated out of the Americas are not having marinara sauce with their pasta. The idea that there is only one human culture, and what we have are a bunch of local implementations and place-and-time specific manifestations of it, is really rather true, but because our memories and our records don't always persist over time, we forget that we have already done this before. Repeatedly.
Research into autism that has done less assuming the neurotypical is "normal" and the standard continues to find things that are classified as deficits and disorders are often strengths and consistencies, just at a different angle than the neurotypical one.
Claudette Colvin, who was getting arrested for not giving up a bus seat in a segregated South before Rosa Parks became the face of it, has died at 86 years of age.
( Murder most foul, an administration gone rogue, and techbros on the warpath inside )
Last for this entry, dressed as the pink ranger from the original Mighty Morphin' Power Rangers / Zyuranger, Martha Root demonstrated how she had gained control of white supremacist websites, had the members talk to chatbots, and then deleted the sites live during the talk.
A plea to start posting the snippets of our lives again, rather than trying to figure out what would be the best for the algorithm or withdrawing entirely from posting because we are trying not to chase the unsatisfiable algorithm. I think that will be an easier task on sites where there is no algorithm to game, but the difficulty of getting people to those sites is that they also need to have their friends decamp to a compatible network as well, and that's not necessarily an easy sell, even if someone wants to leave a toxic environment. (And, as has been well-documented in places like the Fediverse, for minorities, it's a question of leaving one toxic platform for another, and evaluating whether or not the controls on the new platform are good enough that they won't get subjected to more harassment getting through their filters or not.)
The ways that people are using chatbots as social and erotic companions, even though a fair number of them know they're chatbots. Which is the kind of future the techbros would like - interactions as event flags with characters that aren't human and don't have human needs or changes in mood.
And a method that presumably allows you to not have CoPilot or other "AI" features in your Windows 11 install, and sets things up so that they won't reinstall themselves, either.
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meta_warehouse community, little_details, and anyone else I've neglected to mention or who I suspect would rather not be on the list. If you want to know where I get the neat stuff, my reading list has most of it.)
Trans women whose culture includes the quinceañera are celebrating the rite of passage for themselves as an important touchstone of their lives.
A white suit worn by Kate Mulgrew as Captain Janeway in a Star Trek: Voyager episode is about as loud a billboard declaring Janeway queer as you could get away with on television at the time. I get to be part of the Lucky 10,000 in understanding that suit and its origins, and so, hopefully, do you.
People familiar with the culture and traditions of Hawai'i explain why the live-action Lilo and Stitch disrespects that entire tradition, history, and the original animation's messages as well.
The ways that humans have for expressing affection for each other are greater than sex and romance, and many of those acts that WEIRD people would classify as sexual or romantic are instead culturally appropriate expressions of affection. Because there's still not an underlying acceptance of the idea that people can be affectionate to each other without it being sexual, and extra so for people of the same perceived gender.
What we think of as local culture and tradition is global culture and tradition. We have just forgotten that things like food migrate and then integrate really well into wherever they land. Which is why you will occasionally have someone yelling that Italians of an era before the tomato migrated out of the Americas are not having marinara sauce with their pasta. The idea that there is only one human culture, and what we have are a bunch of local implementations and place-and-time specific manifestations of it, is really rather true, but because our memories and our records don't always persist over time, we forget that we have already done this before. Repeatedly.
Research into autism that has done less assuming the neurotypical is "normal" and the standard continues to find things that are classified as deficits and disorders are often strengths and consistencies, just at a different angle than the neurotypical one.
Claudette Colvin, who was getting arrested for not giving up a bus seat in a segregated South before Rosa Parks became the face of it, has died at 86 years of age.
( Murder most foul, an administration gone rogue, and techbros on the warpath inside )
Last for this entry, dressed as the pink ranger from the original Mighty Morphin' Power Rangers / Zyuranger, Martha Root demonstrated how she had gained control of white supremacist websites, had the members talk to chatbots, and then deleted the sites live during the talk.
A plea to start posting the snippets of our lives again, rather than trying to figure out what would be the best for the algorithm or withdrawing entirely from posting because we are trying not to chase the unsatisfiable algorithm. I think that will be an easier task on sites where there is no algorithm to game, but the difficulty of getting people to those sites is that they also need to have their friends decamp to a compatible network as well, and that's not necessarily an easy sell, even if someone wants to leave a toxic environment. (And, as has been well-documented in places like the Fediverse, for minorities, it's a question of leaving one toxic platform for another, and evaluating whether or not the controls on the new platform are good enough that they won't get subjected to more harassment getting through their filters or not.)
The ways that people are using chatbots as social and erotic companions, even though a fair number of them know they're chatbots. Which is the kind of future the techbros would like - interactions as event flags with characters that aren't human and don't have human needs or changes in mood.
And a method that presumably allows you to not have CoPilot or other "AI" features in your Windows 11 install, and sets things up so that they won't reinstall themselves, either.
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adrian_turtle, azurelunatic, boxofdelights, cmcmck, conuly, cosmolinguist, elf, finch, firecat, jadelennox, jenett, jjhunter, kaberett, lilysea, oursin, rydra_wong, snowynight, sonia, the_future_modernes, thewayne, umadoshi, vass, the meta_warehouse community, little_details, and anyone else I've neglected to mention or who I suspect would rather not be on the list. If you want to know where I get the neat stuff, my reading list has most of it.)
stuff
Jan. 16th, 2026 08:02 pmtoastykitten- Canceled my Hilton Honors account. (If you want to mess around some more, here's a suggestion from Sunrise Movement. I'm not doing it because I will NOT remember to cancel. They definitely asked for a reason, and it took me 3 phone calls and being transferred to 3 different people before I could confirm that it was gone.
- ADC set up a legislative tracker that is very useful for tracking anti-speech and legislation related to Palestine and Israel. It is disappointing to see so many anti-boycott laws on the books.
- Beyond Israelism's latest podcast episode is with B’Tselem Executive Director Yuli Novak. Currently the video is behind a paywall, but on the audio podcast you can listen to the whole episode. (They'll probably put the whole interview on YouTube in a few weeks.) It is a very good discussion of how apartheid and genocide is a system, and her own journey from reckoning with how she grew up and the cost of her telling the truth in a society that she thinks has become "completely genocidal".
The latest episode of Good Hang with Amy Poehler where she talks to Ryan Coogler:
Been greatly entertained recently by Kaz Rowe and watching her backlog of recounting the lives of "chaotic bisexuals" like Lord Byron:
A true comfort watch, Inga Lam's videos are really fun and actually has me considering a bread subscription? But it's pretty expensive.
better put your kingdom up for sale
Jan. 16th, 2026 11:11 pmmusesfoolOkay, everything about the last 2 episodes of Abbott Elementary ("The Mall" parts 1 &2) was THE BEST.
( spoilers )
I haven't laughed so hard in a while.
In other news, my nephew and I keep texting each other "wtf?" about everything the Mets have done (or not done) this offseason. Today we were just like, "Wtf?" The Mets now have like 17 second basemen. Hopefully at least one can pitch and one can play left field, because those are the spots they needed to fill. Now they are going to put Bichette at third and Baty in left? What is happening!?! Also, have an obligatory fuck the Dodgers!
Meanwhile, the Rangers' sell-off begins. It's the right thing but ugh, it's going to be hard if Panarin goes to Florida. I can and do root for Detroit and Dallas, but I cannot root for Florida. I guess we'll see what happens. Maybe they'll be able to foist Miller off on someone else too. *crosses fingers*
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( spoilers )
I haven't laughed so hard in a while.
In other news, my nephew and I keep texting each other "wtf?" about everything the Mets have done (or not done) this offseason. Today we were just like, "Wtf?" The Mets now have like 17 second basemen. Hopefully at least one can pitch and one can play left field, because those are the spots they needed to fill. Now they are going to put Bichette at third and Baty in left? What is happening!?! Also, have an obligatory fuck the Dodgers!
Meanwhile, the Rangers' sell-off begins. It's the right thing but ugh, it's going to be hard if Panarin goes to Florida. I can and do root for Detroit and Dallas, but I cannot root for Florida. I guess we'll see what happens. Maybe they'll be able to foist Miller off on someone else too. *crosses fingers*
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2025 Photos
Jan. 16th, 2026 10:04 pmysabetwordsmithThese are the photos that I uploaded in 2025, mostly pictures from my yard or local nature sites. See my Photo tag on Dreamwidth.
• 1401 photos
• Created 03.01.2025
• Updated 26.12.2025
Wow, that's a lot. :D It's nowhere near all of them, even all of the ones good enough to share.
These are the ones I selected to share in Three for the Memories as my most memorable (not most aesthetic or most technically ept) from 2025.
• 1401 photos
• Created 03.01.2025
• Updated 26.12.2025
Wow, that's a lot. :D It's nowhere near all of them, even all of the ones good enough to share.
These are the ones I selected to share in Three for the Memories as my most memorable (not most aesthetic or most technically ept) from 2025.
Photos: Three for the Memories from 2025
Jan. 16th, 2026 08:51 pmysabetwordsmithThese are the three pictures I selected as most memorable (not the most aesthetically beautiful or technically ept) from 2025 for threeforthememories.
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January Movie PTW
Jan. 16th, 2026 09:43 pmbluapapilioUsing my movies boardgame.
I completed 4/5 movies from my last challenge, I liked 3 of them and decided to remove 1 from my PTW.
Avatar:
Animation
Skill: Reroll dice once
Roll #1
A 9, prompt: fantasy creatures. I feel like I saw this as a kid but can't be sure: The Princess and the Goblin.
Roll #2
A 4 and 'generate from PTW list' tile. A 96, so...oh boy, it's The Strangers: Prey at Night. Hard not to remember how the first one ended. We'll see how I do.
Roll #3
A 10, prompt: highest rated on PTW. I removed Psycho which was at the top, just don't think I'd enjoy it. 🤷 The next on the list at 4.2 is One Battle After Another.
Roll #4
A 6 and I'm trying for a higher number with my skill. A 9! Prompt: mystery element. Departing Seniors,
Roll #5
A 3, prompt: thriller. Down.
Roll #6
A 5 and the end. No reward this time because that's the mood.
Movie PTW List:
[Animation/Fantasy] The Princess and the Goblin ✔️
[Horror/Thriller] The Strangers: Prey at Night ✔️
[Action/Thriller] One Battle After Another
[Mystery/Horror] Departing Seniors ✔️
[Mystery/Thriller/Horror] Down ✔️
I completed 4/5 movies from my last challenge, I liked 3 of them and decided to remove 1 from my PTW.
Avatar:
Animation
Skill: Reroll dice once
Roll #1
A 9, prompt: fantasy creatures. I feel like I saw this as a kid but can't be sure: The Princess and the Goblin.
Roll #2
A 4 and 'generate from PTW list' tile. A 96, so...oh boy, it's The Strangers: Prey at Night. Hard not to remember how the first one ended. We'll see how I do.
Roll #3
A 10, prompt: highest rated on PTW. I removed Psycho which was at the top, just don't think I'd enjoy it. 🤷 The next on the list at 4.2 is One Battle After Another.
Roll #4
A 6 and I'm trying for a higher number with my skill. A 9! Prompt: mystery element. Departing Seniors,
Roll #5
A 3, prompt: thriller. Down.
Roll #6
A 5 and the end. No reward this time because that's the mood.
Movie PTW List:
[Animation/Fantasy] The Princess and the Goblin ✔️
[Horror/Thriller] The Strangers: Prey at Night ✔️
[Action/Thriller] One Battle After Another
[Mystery/Horror] Departing Seniors ✔️
[Mystery/Thriller/Horror] Down ✔️
Friday...finally...now to sleep and dream of other days
Jan. 16th, 2026 06:35 pmshadowkatDifficult, long, and tedious work week requiring a touch more patience than I wished to give it - not helped by the cold snap. Although my knees did appreciate it, since I need to ice them anyhow. Nor helped by issues with subways earlier in the week, resulting in more walking and more steps.
But it's Friday, finally! Thank god. And I've got a three day weekend - since we get Martin Luther King Day off - most people do in NYC.
I can sleep in. Rest my knee. And get some chores done. Also maybe a few watercolors.
Been entertaining myself with Buffy podcasts - which require little to no attention, and I find entertaining. Did learn a few things? ( Read more... )
It's really hard to know what is true and what isn't in this day and age. Information Age, my foot - more like Mis-Information Age.
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Finally finished re-watching Hells Bells - I've mixed feelings about this episode. It's alas a Xander episode - which well pretty much tells you everything right there. That said - it's a mixed bag? When the story is focusing on the Scooby Gange or main leads, it's actually pretty good? But when it shifts to the twenty or so never-seen, rarely seen, and never to be seen again - ancillary characters - it loses focus. ( Read more... )
I realized today why I find this show so comforting and feel the need to write about it. It's central theme is "don't give up, life is painful and hard, but don't give up, the people you meet throughout it - make it worth it". I think that's why I love the later seasons - I find them oddly to be the most relatable.
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PT went okay. He said that it's the muscles around the knee that are sore and hurting, because they are weak or strained, so to ice them and do the exercises.
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I'm not enjoying the Angelica Huston Memoir as much as the others, partly because...I don't much like Angelica Huston? ( Read more... )
But it's Friday, finally! Thank god. And I've got a three day weekend - since we get Martin Luther King Day off - most people do in NYC.
I can sleep in. Rest my knee. And get some chores done. Also maybe a few watercolors.
Been entertaining myself with Buffy podcasts - which require little to no attention, and I find entertaining. Did learn a few things? ( Read more... )
It's really hard to know what is true and what isn't in this day and age. Information Age, my foot - more like Mis-Information Age.
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Finally finished re-watching Hells Bells - I've mixed feelings about this episode. It's alas a Xander episode - which well pretty much tells you everything right there. That said - it's a mixed bag? When the story is focusing on the Scooby Gange or main leads, it's actually pretty good? But when it shifts to the twenty or so never-seen, rarely seen, and never to be seen again - ancillary characters - it loses focus. ( Read more... )
I realized today why I find this show so comforting and feel the need to write about it. It's central theme is "don't give up, life is painful and hard, but don't give up, the people you meet throughout it - make it worth it". I think that's why I love the later seasons - I find them oddly to be the most relatable.
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PT went okay. He said that it's the muscles around the knee that are sore and hurting, because they are weak or strained, so to ice them and do the exercises.
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I'm not enjoying the Angelica Huston Memoir as much as the others, partly because...I don't much like Angelica Huston? ( Read more... )
New Year's Resolutions Check In
Jan. 16th, 2026 07:46 pmysabetwordsmithWe made it through the second week of January. This is enough to get a better grasp of progress with New Year's resolutions. It's also into the period of rapid die-off. We have reached the second Friday in January, also known as Quitter's Day because so many people give up their New Year's resolutions then. See also the parallel check in post over on goals_on_dw.
Feel free to copy the idea of a New Year's resolution check-in to your blog or other venue, to encourage yourself and your friends. Many people find that social support helps maintain resolutions. This is one area where online activity works as well as or better than facetime activity. Apps work too, with trackers for most popular goal categories. Consider the pros and cons of getting your friends to help. Here on Dreamwidth we haveawesomeers and do_it that may prove helpful for social support of goals. Some craft communities like get_knitted and justcreate also have check-in posts.
According to an email from Facebook, the survey found that those who shared their New Year's resolution on Facebook were 36 percent more likely to stick to it. Additionally, 52 percent of those surveyed agreed that sharing their resolutions with others is helpful when it comes to accomplishing them. In my experience, saying (or posting) things out loud definitely makes them feel more real. Plus, if other people know about a goal you're trying to achieve, it may motivate you to keep working at it so you can provide future updates on your progress.
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goals_on_dw.Feel free to copy the idea of a New Year's resolution check-in to your blog or other venue, to encourage yourself and your friends. Many people find that social support helps maintain resolutions. This is one area where online activity works as well as or better than facetime activity. Apps work too, with trackers for most popular goal categories. Consider the pros and cons of getting your friends to help. Here on Dreamwidth we have
awesomeers and do_it that may prove helpful for social support of goals. Some craft communities like get_knitted and justcreate also have check-in posts.According to an email from Facebook, the survey found that those who shared their New Year's resolution on Facebook were 36 percent more likely to stick to it. Additionally, 52 percent of those surveyed agreed that sharing their resolutions with others is helpful when it comes to accomplishing them. In my experience, saying (or posting) things out loud definitely makes them feel more real. Plus, if other people know about a goal you're trying to achieve, it may motivate you to keep working at it so you can provide future updates on your progress.
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Jan. 16th, 2026 08:29 pmflemmingsWas out scraping packed down snow from the front sidewalk, now temps are however briefly above 'frozen solid', and had to step back for a gaggle of school kids coming up the street, lagging behind their impatient mother and dragging toboggans behind them. Shortly followed by NND and M heading out down the street with a toboggan. NND confirms that schools are still closed even though the streets are plowed. Whoever else may or jay not be enjoying this old fashioned winter, the kids must surely be in heaven. A four day weekend and infinite tobogganing, how cool is that?
Garbage trucks did make it out this evening, though I shall be surprised if people then put their bins back. Still don't see me going out any time soon. See: snowploughs creating mountain ridges at all street corners. Or pools, since tomorrow will be above freezing. Cooked a turkey roll and did a dark wash and tried to get the kitchen floor clean with indifferent success, and that was my day.
Garbage trucks did make it out this evening, though I shall be surprised if people then put their bins back. Still don't see me going out any time soon. See: snowploughs creating mountain ridges at all street corners. Or pools, since tomorrow will be above freezing. Cooked a turkey roll and did a dark wash and tried to get the kitchen floor clean with indifferent success, and that was my day.
Fun things to do on a snowy Friday - Kink list updated
Jan. 16th, 2026 08:24 pmpetraI was talking about story exchanges with friends and realized my kink list of yes/no/maybe in fiction dated to 2011.
And that that was 15 years ago.
I overhauled it, so for anyone interested in a dive into my kinks, by all means have at.
And that that was 15 years ago.
I overhauled it, so for anyone interested in a dive into my kinks, by all means have at.
Daily Happiness
Jan. 16th, 2026 05:26 pmtorachan1. I had a very nice relaxing WFH day. (The only annoying part was the very loud construction on one end of the street and the tar smell which was coming from either that site or the construction at the other end of the street lol.)
2. We walked down to the Italian deli this morning to get sandwiches for lunch. Also a nice part of working from home! We knew it would be pretty hot today, so rather than walk there at lunch time, we went right after Carla woke up, when it wasn't too hot and there was still some shade for most of the walk.
3. I changed the bandage on my tattoo this morning and cleaned it up. It's looking really good! After changing it, there is still some fluid coming out, but doesn't seem to be any blood. They said to use the clear "second skin" bandage for up to a week, so I actually ordered some more off Amazon (she gave me enough for one change) in case I need to change it sooner. With the amount of fluid under it right now, I might.
4. Upon closer inspection it looks like Tuxie is missing some fur on his forehead, so I think he might have been in a fight while he was gone, but he seems fine otherwise. Better than that time he got a chunk of his ear ripped out.
2. We walked down to the Italian deli this morning to get sandwiches for lunch. Also a nice part of working from home! We knew it would be pretty hot today, so rather than walk there at lunch time, we went right after Carla woke up, when it wasn't too hot and there was still some shade for most of the walk.
3. I changed the bandage on my tattoo this morning and cleaned it up. It's looking really good! After changing it, there is still some fluid coming out, but doesn't seem to be any blood. They said to use the clear "second skin" bandage for up to a week, so I actually ordered some more off Amazon (she gave me enough for one change) in case I need to change it sooner. With the amount of fluid under it right now, I might.
4. Upon closer inspection it looks like Tuxie is missing some fur on his forehead, so I think he might have been in a fight while he was gone, but he seems fine otherwise. Better than that time he got a chunk of his ear ripped out.
🎬Movies Check-in
Jan. 16th, 2026 07:12 pmbluapapilioBeyond Loch Ness ('08): It was better than I thought, there was definitely a level of ridiculousness still and a little spotty acting but I think I'll watch it again to catch what I didn't (there were no subs and I didn't feel like putting my headphones in). Also, the girl and her shitty boyfriend were the cliches cliche to ever cliche in these type of movies. I was surprised to see Beckett and Hammond's actors from Stargate and Leo's actor from Charmed in here!
Flight of the Living Dead ('07): Another that was better than expected, I felt like it had distinct characters even if some of them were terrible. Would rewatch.
The Little Mermaid ('24): Man falls in love with woman, almost destroys the world. Kinda lost interest a ways in and skimmed.
Dust Bunny ('25): The plot takes a while to start going anywhere but I got invested around 30 minutes in. I enjoyed the twist and turns it took. I was glad for the post-credits scene though I wonder how she's going to explain everything. 😅 4/5 stars
I took a look at Trunk - Locked in and decided not to watch it.
Flight of the Living Dead ('07): Another that was better than expected, I felt like it had distinct characters even if some of them were terrible. Would rewatch.
The Little Mermaid ('24): Man falls in love with woman, almost destroys the world. Kinda lost interest a ways in and skimmed.
Dust Bunny ('25): The plot takes a while to start going anywhere but I got invested around 30 minutes in. I enjoyed the twist and turns it took. I was glad for the post-credits scene though I wonder how she's going to explain everything. 😅 4/5 stars
I took a look at Trunk - Locked in and decided not to watch it.
