Abandoning defaults
Sep. 28th, 2005 10:01 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
mrissaCJ was a hero of the revolution today: chopped things for dinner and wore the Ista-girl out in the backyard with the tennis ball. Much appreciated.
I know that I added more to the "to do" list today than I took off it. I suspect tomorrow will be the same, between taking![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
timprov in for his CPAP fitting in the morning and going to get my back fixed in the afternoon. I will likely be done with energy at that point, and any leftovers I have will be used to walk the beastlet. Bleh.
The next month is starting to look pretty overwhelming.markgritter will be traveling for the two weeks before World Fantasy, and then I'll be gone for World Fantasy. By myself. Well, okay, not by myself, but I'll be making the drive alone as far as I've heard to this point. If I'm not doing any better by then, it'll be a challenge, and I'll probably stop off at the moose in Black River Falls to have a cup of coffee and sit and read. On the other hand, I haven't done a lot of travel by myself in the last, oh, say, six years or so, and that part will be interesting.
When I first declared my hermitage, the term of it was "until the end of September or until I feel better." Here it is the end of September. I don't feel better. I'm not willing to become a permanent hermit if I can at all help it, though, so the question will be how to find a new balance for as long as I need one. How to find ways to say yes to some things without saying yes to everything. The default no is easy. It does not discriminate. It doesn't risk that one person will feel that it's personally about them. I can't live with a default no, though, and I don't think anyone could manage a default yes for the number of interesting projects and people there are available to me. So no default. Difficult. Imperfect. Human.
I hope you all can live with that, because it's what I've got.
I know that I added more to the "to do" list today than I took off it. I suspect tomorrow will be the same, between taking
timprov in for his CPAP fitting in the morning and going to get my back fixed in the afternoon. I will likely be done with energy at that point, and any leftovers I have will be used to walk the beastlet. Bleh.The next month is starting to look pretty overwhelming.
markgritter will be traveling for the two weeks before World Fantasy, and then I'll be gone for World Fantasy. By myself. Well, okay, not by myself, but I'll be making the drive alone as far as I've heard to this point. If I'm not doing any better by then, it'll be a challenge, and I'll probably stop off at the moose in Black River Falls to have a cup of coffee and sit and read. On the other hand, I haven't done a lot of travel by myself in the last, oh, say, six years or so, and that part will be interesting.When I first declared my hermitage, the term of it was "until the end of September or until I feel better." Here it is the end of September. I don't feel better. I'm not willing to become a permanent hermit if I can at all help it, though, so the question will be how to find a new balance for as long as I need one. How to find ways to say yes to some things without saying yes to everything. The default no is easy. It does not discriminate. It doesn't risk that one person will feel that it's personally about them. I can't live with a default no, though, and I don't think anyone could manage a default yes for the number of interesting projects and people there are available to me. So no default. Difficult. Imperfect. Human.
I hope you all can live with that, because it's what I've got.
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Date: 2005-09-29 04:04 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-09-30 02:14 am (UTC)While it would have been convenient to have a chiropractor able to go "[click] [OOF!] There you go, all better," I do have a lot of respect for my chiropractor for not taking advantage of the situation to tell me I had to come in every week or something like that without any medical reason. The one I saw before in this area would have.