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[mrissa]

I feel weird writing about bad news that is primarily "other people's." On the other hand, I feel weird posting upbeat con reports and not mentioning that there is really, really bad news I got last night when I got home from the con for the evening. I am trying to compartmentalize, and I am trying to let the person most involved deal with this in his own way, including talking to mutual friends when that seems appropriate. And I feel very sad and very helpless about the situation. There's nothing I could do if I was there anyway, but I wish there was.

(This is not about someone in my household, in case you were going to ask.)

Comments

[buymeaclue.livejournal.com]

::support support loff::

And warm thoughts to whoever it is (assuming they are the sort of person deserving of warm thoughts, but given that it's someone you know/care about, I'm comfortable with guessing "yes").

[ckd]

What buymeaclue said. Whether or not this is someone I know, your concern for them is recommendation enough for me to wish them well also.

[mkille.livejournal.com]

I am sorry, and prayers.

[sartorias.livejournal.com]

Wishing your friend the best.

[kythiaranos.livejournal.com]

I think sometimes it's harder to watch someone else grieve than it is to do the grieving myself; I know what feels 'normal' or 'right' to me, but I don't necessarily know what will help someone else or give them strength to deal.

[mrissa.livejournal.com]

In this case, I think there probably is literally nothing I can do, and that's hard.

Also, it's not that I'm not grieving. It's that I'm not one of the primary bereaved, if that idea makes any sense. My life will be orders and orders of magnitude less affected than other people's -- but it's a diminishing thing all the same.