Two very serious things.

[mrissa]

1. My face did freeze that way.

2. You know that meme that's going around, with all the checkboxes? Nobody on my friendslist has admitted to having been the psycho ex in a past relationship. I wonder if it would be different if it was, "I have been the heartless jerk who broke his/her heart." Or maybe you're all model exes; who knows.

Is this useful? Not at all, but I'm in a very odd mood for getting things done. Where by "very odd," I mean "silly and not very useful." I should probably go away from the computer so that I still have decent shoulder-time left when I'm feeling less silly. On the other hand, if I don't corral the brain now, it may run screaming off and not return for weeks and then with beads and feathers it got heaven knows where. I will write longhand tonight. Yes. I will write the end of "In the Velvet Swamp" longhand, since the rest of the story is longhand anyway, and it's probably good for me not to get too hooked into one mode in case I need to be in another for some reason. But before then I will make two little things in MSS go more sensibly. Really. Truly.

Comments

[callunav.livejournal.com]

I haven't done the meme (and if I was going to, would probably have done the hand-coded one, not that it matters) but I did spend a moment contemplating this. My first inlcination was to answer in the affirmative, then I went through all the relationships, and can't really think of one that fits. I was entirely psycho after my first real relationship, but the situation was (I /think/) one in which even right after the break-up both she and I knew she'd been in the wrong, so I don't think she characterized me that way. I do think I've been the heartless jerk who broke someone's heart. I felt really bad about it, but apparently that doesn't help. Or, at least, I felt really bad that he felt so bad about it. That doesn't seem to be enough to make one non-heartless, though. Possibly it makes things worse.

I have also had the distinction of being The Psycho/Evil Bitch Who Did THAT To My Daughter at least twice, where 'THAT' was, on one occasion, 'broke up with, not that we'll admit that this was a romantic relationship or that my daughter could ever be queer, but still' and, on another 'made her lesbian and turned her against us.'

I dislike being hated, even in a good cause.

[mrissa.livejournal.com]

Understandable. But on the other hand, I think it's harder to be reasonable about someone hurting someone you love, especially if you're not privy to all the details of how the person you love may have done some hurting back.

The funny thing about two of my friends who broke off their relationship was that they were kind of the opposite: falling all over themselves to tell me how I shouldn't blame the other person because they [the one speaking] were at least as much to blame, certainly weren't perfect, had done X or Y or Z that they wouldn't have appreciated. I get protective of my friends, but it was kind of cute to watch them both trying to make sure I didn't get protective in a way that would destroy my friendship with their ex.