Two very serious things.

[mrissa]

1. My face did freeze that way.

2. You know that meme that's going around, with all the checkboxes? Nobody on my friendslist has admitted to having been the psycho ex in a past relationship. I wonder if it would be different if it was, "I have been the heartless jerk who broke his/her heart." Or maybe you're all model exes; who knows.

Is this useful? Not at all, but I'm in a very odd mood for getting things done. Where by "very odd," I mean "silly and not very useful." I should probably go away from the computer so that I still have decent shoulder-time left when I'm feeling less silly. On the other hand, if I don't corral the brain now, it may run screaming off and not return for weeks and then with beads and feathers it got heaven knows where. I will write longhand tonight. Yes. I will write the end of "In the Velvet Swamp" longhand, since the rest of the story is longhand anyway, and it's probably good for me not to get too hooked into one mode in case I need to be in another for some reason. But before then I will make two little things in MSS go more sensibly. Really. Truly.

Comments

[mrissa.livejournal.com]

As long as you're talking it into less importance rather than more.

It's a fine line, because on the one hand, I do believe that teenager's feelings are important, that belittling those feelings because of the age of the person who has them is a bad, bad idea. But on the other hand, teenagers are inexperienced in handling relationships, and if they aren't as careful/considerate as they would like to be later in life, I think they deserve a little slack from their future selves.

[tanaise.livejournal.com]

I try and make it assume less importance when I talk about it, which I think it largely does--when I start to understand why I behave in a certain way, I can start avoiding the bad stuff and just doing the good stuff.

I don't doubt that a teenager's feelings are important to them, and at that time. I suspect that now, 13 years later he's probably more embarassed by the depth of the response he had, but I don't think that makes it any less real, particularly while he was living it.

It's like PMS--just because my emotions are all over the place doesn't make them any less valid as emotions. It may mean they're extreme, but that's just a factor, not a reason to dismiss them. (the one thing my mom does that I HATE is ask me if I'm premenstrual when I get upset about things. Way to marginalize my opinions.)