...and hanging on.

[mrissa]

After that last post, I thought of one more thing I should say when next I was at the computer:

Another question I asked myself about the vanishing friendship in question is whether this person was behaving reasonably and my standards were unusually high because the rest of my family, friends, and cordial acquaintances have been so extremely awesome through this whole PT nonsense. I don't think that's it, either, but I just wanted to say, hey, I notice these things. This could easily have been a very lonely time for me, and everything from major household help to simple words of encouragement have made sure that it is not. It still sucks, lo, mightily to be vertiginous all the time, and I look forward to the day when it's all better. But in the meantime, thank you, thank you, and more thank you. Yes, you.

Comments

[copperwise.livejournal.com]

I understand about the wondering if you are the one being "unreasonable."

I have a friend who I am wondering about...has always behaved as though we were colleagues in art and creating and such. I have supported and pimped this person's work to the point of probably being annoying to others.

And I just started to realize, this person has not said Word the First about my writing, the book coming, or most recently my pendants.

Now I certainly don't expect my entire friends list to go out and advertise for me, but somebody who I've had that sort of relationship with, I guess I kind of did subconsciously expect something. Even encouragement, you know?

So am I being petty, or justifiably hurt? I really can't decide.

It sucks when friends don't behave like friends.

You rock, you deserve all the support you need, and living with someone who has bouts of vertigo I totally get the massive suckage. I'm sorry your friend is a schmuck.

[mrissa.livejournal.com]

I hope you manage to sort the situation out soon, and with a minimum of misunderstandings all around. And I hope that correctly understanding each other doesn't hurt -- contrary to popular belief, sometimes communicating clearly and understanding each other doesn't fix the essential problem.

[copperwise.livejournal.com]

Nope, sometimes it makes it worse.

Which is probably why I'm just not confronting it at all at the moment. Heh.

[athenais.livejournal.com]

I really want to leave a comment on the other entry, because the business of friendships reaching an end, useful or otherwise, is of great interest to me.

But I am on my way to the doctor to see why I've been having bouts of vertigo for four months. This wry smile? Let me show it to you.

I am always so pleased to see substantial entries from you here, especially as they are not as frequent as they once were. It is good to see you online.

[mrissa.livejournal.com]

I hope you have one of the kinds of vertigo that comes with a good quick fix. Uff da.

[athenais.livejournal.com]

Sinus infection, blocked Eustacian tube, it's viral, I'm to give antihistamines a try. Okay, then!

[mrissa.livejournal.com]

Yay! Something they might could fix!

[kalikanzara.livejournal.com]

I might not be good at simple words of encouragement, or, well, weaving them concisely and succinctly into useful things. Much better at say, the amphibological - I could distract, a muse and enchant you; inveigle, with or without tergiversation; offer exhortations either gelid or pyretic, depending on your temper; facile, I think, is not my idiom.

In any case, I look forward to further intercommunication, whether LJ or hopefully seeing you about more as things improve. :)

[mrissa.livejournal.com]

Not your idiom? Now I'm afraid I've taken the low road and am imagining you swinging on a chandelier rope asking for a push.

[mamapduck.livejournal.com]

Have I mentioned lately that you do not have to decide what book to right next, even though I am certain it should have hockey in it.

[mrissa.livejournal.com]

Alack and woe, it's too late for me.

[one-undone.livejournal.com]

Thank YOU for being so lovely and gracious with people even when frustrated and quite likely overwhelmed with all of this vertigo stuff. Your entries always give me something to think about, and new perspectives on old things I thought all pondered-out, and that's a good thing.

Be well.

[mrissa.livejournal.com]

We're doing our best around here. You be well, too.