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[mrissa]

It's amazing how hard it is to tell the difference between, "One more thing? Ah well, put it on the list," and, "One more damn thing? I have no idea how we are going to deal with this," from the outside.

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[pnkrokhockeymom.livejournal.com]

I am on the line between the two. Right now. Your post, for me, quite timely and exactly on point.

[themagdalen.livejournal.com]

Yes ma'am.

Some days even from the inside, the line is pretty damn thin.

[cakmpls.livejournal.com]

Oh, that's what I was going to say!

I think most things for me become a combination: something like, "One more damn thing? Ah well, put it on the list, though at this moment I have no idea how we are going to deal with this."

ETA: I suspect my approach has something to do with having raised four kids...

[mrissa.livejournal.com]

Yah.

[callunav.livejournal.com]

Sometimes one realizes one has made a choice, though there's no identifiable moment of choosing, between privacy and being transparent. I know someone who has outright hysterics when they hit the latter point, but that's not what I'd want in myself, so with me it is sometimes hard to tell the difference. With her, it's not.

Sometimes, of course, that's not the issue at all.

[mrissa.livejournal.com]

Right on both counts. Not always relevant to a particular situation, but definitely true.

[stillnotbored.livejournal.com]

Yes, it is very hard from the outside.

From the inside, not so hard.

[mrissa.livejournal.com]

Hmm. Sometimes hard from the inside for me as well.

[stillnotbored.livejournal.com]

Ahh... The desire to curl up into a little ball and whimper is usually a clue for me. I don't do it, but that's how I know I've made my limit. :)

[mrissa.livejournal.com]

Hmm. See, sometimes for me the desire to hide under the desk precedes the ability to square my shoulders and say, "Well, so-and-so said she'd help with this, and we can do that next week, and if I do this and this then that will be done, so we're just left with...." Sometimes. Sometimes the desire to hide under the desk precedes more desire to hide under the desk.

[mrissa.livejournal.com]

(For anybody who is worried right now: if I was hiding under the desk right now, I wouldn't be commenting on livejournal.)

[matociquala.livejournal.com]

It really is.

(moral support)

[marydell.livejournal.com]

Yah. From the outside or the inside, as others are saying.

OTOH, sometimes things shift themselves into a different category, given a few days or even hours to ripen. Sometimes not, unfortunately.

[redbird]

It can be hard from the inside too, as others have noted. For me, that's partly because one way I identify the latter is by putting the one more thing on the list, trying to address either it or something else that was on the list, and either failing and reacting badly to that, or suddenly realizing I am out of energy in one or more senses.