I'm not proud. Or tired. Well, kind of tired.

[mrissa]

A couple days ago a friend asked a question that seemed like it might have more broad application than just the social situation he was mentioning, so I thought I would put it and my answer here: what he wanted to know was whether I am okay accepting help from people outside my immediate family in order to be able to do stuff while the stupid vertigo is still around.

And the answer is yes, absolutely. I am not at all proud about accepting help. It may not be that the help you offer is workable for one reason or another, but I will not be at all upset that you offered, and I will not turn whatever offer down out of the sheer desire to avoid accepting help.

What I am not good at is soliciting help from scratch. "You know what would be fun? If you came and got me and then [actual fun thing here]," or, "If you rode the bus down and came over and then [actual fun thing here]," is very hard for me. It sounds to me like, "You know what would be fun? If you baked me a pan of brownies. Wouldn't that be awesome? You could go to the store, and buy the ingredients, and do all the work, and then I would have brownies. Doesn't that sound like fun?" Yes, I know I've baked people brownies before and will likely do it again. And in fact I do like baking brownies. But, "How about I make you a pan of brownies?" is very different from, "How about you make me a pan of brownies?"

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[wordswoman.livejournal.com]

She's a big girl! About 80 lbs. We don't know exactly what she is, but our best guess is a lab-rottie mix. Very mellow in general, somewhat timid/fearful in new situations. In the two months we've had her, she has never been more aggressive than a warning growl if another dog is getting too rambunctious for her, e.g. barking in her face or lunging at her. But I can't say that I know how she behaves with other dogs in all situations yet, so I would proceed carefully too.

[mrissa.livejournal.com]

I have not forgotten you, I just wanted to say! We're in the middle of some scheduling bits. I will poke you when I know what is going on with that.