Complimentary?

[mrissa]

I've been thinking about compliments (thanks to conversations with tanaise and The Other Mark), so now I'm wondering: what do you like in a compliment? What kind of compliments are easiest for you to accept? What kind are hardest? Or are you good at taking compliments? What kind of compliments do you give, and do they tend to be received well by the people around you?

I mean this both topically (do you have an easier time with compliments to you personally or to something specific you did? with appearance, intellectual stuff, musical stuff, etc.?) and stylistically (how do you do with superlatives, comparatives, understatement, etc.?). And anything else you can think of, I guess.

If you use this to fish for compliments, for heaven's sake make them amuse me.

Comments

[aet.livejournal.com]

The only kind of compliments I have no trouble to accept are the ones meant as insults.

[mrissa.livejournal.com]

You mean, "Oh, that was brilliant" when really it was quite stupid? That sort of thing?

[aet.livejournal.com]

No, I mean when people say something to me, considering it to be a fault, while for me it is a virtue. Like telling me: "You look like a boy!" That one, usually meant to make me work on being more feminine, just used to make me feel really happy.

[mrissa.livejournal.com]

Is that because you valued different things than the people speaking to you, or because it was easier not to deal with kindness, or for some other reason?